I think all the people I have known closely in my life have told me that I am too good as a person. However, in the last years of my life, I have had to modify some behaviors. They tend to hurt us more frequently. We feel what others feel; we help without asking for anything in return. We give ourselves without reservation, and soon after, you discover that some of the people you reached out to are not what they claimed to be.
The good news is that you were given the gift of having a huge heart. Plus, there are many ways you can take care of yourself.
Before giving love, fill yourself with love
If you are like me, you are one of those who loves to give love to others. You give them your attention, your time, and many other resources. You are always very aware of what others need but not what you need. Your generosity is an admirable quality, but sometimes it is exhausting, and you may even be a little resentful for not receiving the attention that you are giving. Learn to be generous with yourself first, honor your time, attention, money, and love as your precious natural resources. First, fill yourself with them, and then you give to others. This way, you will not feel resentment, because you will be covering the love of yourself.
Limits are essential to take care of your heart
Limits are essential for a healthy heart. You always give people more than two chances, a third, even a fourth chance, although they don’t deserve it. Many people with bad intentions likely take advantage of your good character. Learn to say that it is not essential. It would help if you felt comfortable with the decisions you are making.
You can still be generous in the way you view others while having clear boundaries. The cleaner your limits, the more effective you can be in sharing your big heart with those who can indeed receive it.
Feel emotions but do not fall prey to them
People with big hearts tend to experience their emotions very intensely. You could feel the grief of another person without having known who died. Sometimes people with big hearts have to learn not to be guided by their feelings. Feel your emotions, but don’t let them become a storm that threatens your emotional stability.
Practice emotional hygiene
Do not focus on the emotions of others. You cannot live and solve problems for others. It is very likely that, on many occasions, you have taken responsibility for the feelings of other people. Although this may seem nice to you, it is a way of taking power away from the other person.
It would be best if you learned that you are not responsible for feeling for others or assuming their problems or battles.
Don’t expect others to reciprocate
With a lot of love to give, you may feel hurt if the same love is not returned. When you are not reciprocated, you can feel seriously hurt. In these long years, I learned that you don’t have to give your heart to everyone. Instead, be kind and understanding, without giving your whole heart to these people. Be nice without expecting anything in return. Others are within their right to reciprocate or not. Part of loving yourself is being aware that everyone loves themselves according to their free will.